How to Forgive Someone Who Hurt You: 7 Ways You Can Be Free Today [FAITH]

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Wait! You didn’t really mean I should forgive right? There’s no way that’s happening!

Life thus far has taught me one important lesson, which is the fact that unforgiveness has just one pathway- negativity. I’ve come to understand that in order to truly forgive, we must learn to see the people that hurt us in the light of love. I know, I know! Love? That might be hard for most minds to embrace. This process is never easy and it clearly takes the grace of God to help us detox and rebuild ourselves in love again.

People have hurt me in the past and honestly it took a HUGE toll on my mental, spiritual, emotional life and general productivity. Few years ago I went through a personal ‘cleansing’ experience that was as a result of a betrayal from a close friend. I was still in college and off course we were all hyped about the ‘best friend’ vibe and sometimes we just forgot to read the clear writings on the wall. The truth truly hurts and at that point, I wasn’t even ready to accept and live with that truth.

Previously I had side chatters who convinced me of what they heard and saw. Now, the thing about listening to gossips is that, they have a PhD in that field and can lure you into believing that your name isn’t your name. But I’ve learnt to always consult God and the right people before believing any rumours. (more…)

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How to Stop Holding Yourself Back

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For a very long time, I was holding myself back from achieving my dreams and letting my voice to be heard. I’m not sure if it was fear, shyness or a mixture of both. It’s a tough and terrible place to be in, especially if you have BIG dreams that keep you awake at night. However now, I understand that what we focus on is very important and can either make or break us. Most people are very indecisive and even when they make a decision; they still allow all sorts of voices to drawn their own unique voice out, then they find themselves right at the spot where they started. Today, I’m here to encourage you and tell you this- stop holding yourself back in life.

Are you struggling with speaking your truth?

Are you stuck in a rut and still compare yourself with others?

Are you wondering when you’ll start following your passion?

Are you just wondering when you’ll start making profit from your passion?

Do you just feel like you’ve been working so hard behind the scenes, but still you’re afraid of what the world will says about you?

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Still Haven’t Achieved Your 2015 Goals? How to Set Clear Goals for Your Life Now

SMART (Specific, Measurable, Attainable, Relevant, Time-bound) goal setting concept presented on blackboard with colorful crumpled sticky notes and white chalk handwriting
SMART (Specific, Measurable, Attainable, Relevant, Time-bound) goal setting concept presented on blackboard with colorful crumpled sticky notes and white chalk handwriting

 

 

Happy September!! It’s almost the end of the year. Like What?! There’s something about the ‘ember months’ that make people excited. Am I the only one with this kind of view? Most people look forward to Thanksgiving, Sales season and Christmas; so there’s a tendency that they’ll also give more (hopefully).

Well, beyond that, it’s a time to start reflecting on some of our goals from January and evaluate how far we’ve gone, what mistakes were made and how to move forward with a stronger determination.

However, I believe what really drives us are our life goals. Setting clear goals in life is one aspect that sets the pace for the rest of our goals and help us make the right decisions. What would you like to achieve 5, 10, 20 years from now? Do you have clearly written out goals and also implementation steps towards achieving them?

One of my ‘virtual mentors’ who I’ve also met- Mr Lanre Olusola told me earlier this year of the importance of being detailed about our life goals. He also stressed on the significance of writing down our goals in the past tense and how that helps our subconscious to literally work towards them.

 

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